Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Our plan as we move forward...

I've been dreading writing this post because it is really hard to do.  I still feel such sadness over our adoption falling through in January, and I think about what our little guy might be doing right now, how old he is, what stage of development he is in...I'm still grieving not getting to bring him home. 

Our home study expires this week, and after discussing it a lot, looking at our options, looking at the events of 2015 so far in our lives, and looking at what the rest of 2015 might be like, Joey and I have decided to not update our home study at this time.  It has been a really rough year for us so far, and we are still dealing with a difficult situation that changed some of our plans for this year, including updating our home study. 

So our plan as we move forward, since we both still really have a desire to adopt, is to wait until Gus is a little bit older and try to adopt through becoming foster parents.  We still want to adopt two children so if we could adopt siblings at one time, that would be wonderful.  If we need to adopt at different times, then we will do that, too.  I trust that if it's God's plan for us to adopt like we desire to do, then it will work out in His timing.  Right now, we don't think it's the right time.  Hopefully next year we can start the process to become licensed foster care parents.  I waited a long time for my amazing husband so I am hopeful that this time of waiting will only make adopting in the future that much more wonderful when it does happen.    

We would appreciate your continued prayers.  This decision has not been an easy one, and I feel very heartbroken about it, but Joey and I both think it's the right decision for right now.  

Once we begin the foster care licensing process, we will let you know so that you can be praying.  From talking with others who have been through it, there is a lot that goes into the process so it will take some time.  Our prayer is that once we are licensed and begin getting placements, God will bring children into our home that need a forever family.  Thank you to everyone who supported us through our adoption process last year and who continue to understand our grief over not getting to bring Baby Goldsmith home in January.  We are thankful for our friends and family who have been there with us through both the excitement and the sadness. 

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Where We Are...

It's been a long time since I updated our blog.  To be honest, it's been a difficult last two months.  It's hard to even know what to write.  Finding out on January 26th that our little boy's birth mom had delivered him and had decided to keep him was not the beginning to 2015 that we had hoped for, planned for, nor anticipated.  The same morning that we found out  that we would not be bringing our little boy home, we also found out that Claudia would be moving to Virginia in March.  It felt like we lost two kids at the same time.  We trust that God has a plan in all of this and that the hurt will not be for nothing. 

We are continuing in our adoption journey and are currently waiting to be matched again.  The waiting is really difficult, and it seems to get harder for me the longer we wait.  I long for Gus to have a little brother or sister.  Actually, we hope that he will have both eventually. 

We hope that before 2015 is over, we will have another member to the Goldsmith family.  We hope to go from a family of 4 to a family of 5.  We just have to wait and see.  Once we are matched again, we will need to fundraise again because we lost a good portion of what we raised with the adoption falling through.  It's discouraging to say the least, but we both still desire so much to adopt so we are not ready to give up.

We would appreciate your prayers as we move forward.  I desire to be content where God has us, but that is oftentimes a struggle for me right now.  There are things to celebrate...the time that we do have with Claudia, our sweet Gus, Joey and I getting through tough times together, wonderful family and friends, a church that reminds us that Jesus has us.  

As I said when I started this update, it's hard to know what to write.  Thanks to everyone who has been so supportive to us during this difficult time.  We appreciate it so much!  Amidst the sorrow and grief, our friends and family have been such an encouragement to us.  So thank you! 


 

Monday, January 12, 2015

While We Wait...

It has been a while since we updated everyone on our adoption journey.  We are in the home stretch!  We have raised the money needed for our adoption thanks to many of you as well as some wonderful organizations that support adoption and award grants.  We are thankful the fundraising is complete.  Now we are waiting to get that call (in our case it will be a text message) saying it is time.  Joey and I will drop everything and head towards the hospital.

I have a bag packed and ready along with all of the things that I can think of that we might need for our travel back to Greenville with our little guy.  He is due January 23rd, and we can't wait to meet him! 

Please pray for our family as we wait.  The waiting is hard, and I think it will only get harder once we get the text from our little guy's birth mom saying that it is time.  I can only imagine that our time at the hospital will be a mixture of excitement, fear, nervousness, and exhaustion.  . 

This has been a surreal experience so far.  Overall, the adoption process for us has gone very smoothly.  I pray that it continues that way.  Sadly, we have had to let some relationships go as a result of our choosing this path, and that has been very difficult for us.  We are grieving those relationships but rejoicing in gaining a sweet little boy soon.  I can't wait to hold him for the first time!

We are SO thankful for the tremendous amount of support and encouragement we have received and continue to receive during this journey.  We look forward to introducing our little guy to you soon.  :)

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Great Weekend Away :)

We had a wonderful weekend!  We took a trip in state to meet our baby's birth mom, and it was a fun time.  Claudia, Gus, Joey, and I enjoyed our time together so much.  Joey's mom went with us, as well, and it was so good to have her with us.  We had an enjoyable time playing in the sand and water on the beach on Saturday afternoon and a fun filled Saturday night at Medieval Times.  Going to Medieval Times was a first for all of us, and it did not disappoint. 

Joey and I had breakfast with our baby's birth mom this morning, and it went really well.  We are thankful to have had the opportunity to meet her in person and get to know her better.  She is an amazing person, and I admire her so much.  We look forward to continuing to get to know her.  I feel so honored that she chose Joey and me to raise her little boy.  We are so excited to meet him in two months!  Please pray for all involved as the time for our sweet boy's arrival draws closer.

Below are some photos from our weekend.  It was an encouraging weekend, and we are so thankful for the time away with family.  :)








We continue to fundraise for our final adoption expenses.  We have $1,500 left to raise so we are very close.  Thank you to everyone who has helped us get to this point.  It means so much! We are looking forward to introducing the newest member of our family to you when he arrives.  We appreciate your continued prayers for our little boy, for his birth mom, and for us. 


Tuesday, November 18, 2014

So close!

We are only about $2,000 away from raising the funds we need for our adoption! We need to have all of our adoption funds in by mid-December so that we can make our last payment to our agency.  It will be a huge relief to reach our goal and focus on our final preparations for our little boy's arrival in late January.

If you are interested in giving towards our remaining adoption costs, there are several ways for you to do so:

1. T-shirt fundraiser--Our t-shirts are $20 each, and we receive 50%.  This is a great way to donate because you get a "souvenir."  :)   We have a link on this blog that will give instructions on how to purchase a T-shirt.  The last day to order a T-shirt is November 30th. We will receive the T-shirts the first week of December and get them to everyone who orders one. 
2. Lifesong for Orphans--If you would like to donate and receive a tax deduction for your donation, then you can go to the Lifesong for Orphans website or send a check to them with our account information on it (Goldsmith #4762). We get 100% of what is donated through this organization, which is wonderful! Normally an organization will take a percentage for administrative costs. We have a link on this blog that will give instructions on how to donate through Lifesong for Orphans.

3. Give directly to us--If you would like to donate directly to us, you can make a check out to Joey or Jennifer Goldsmith. 


We will let everyone know when we have reached our fundraising goal.  We recently got our puzzle framed from our puzzle piece fundraiser and will be hanging it in our den so that anyone who visits our home can see it.  It's really amazing to look at that puzzle and see so many people who have invested in our family through this adoption.  We look forward to sharing that with our little man and telling him about this journey that brought him to his forever family. 

We plan to travel this weekend to meet our baby's birthmother. Please be in prayer for us about this. We are excited and nervous at the same time! We hope that we make a good connection with her and that our relationship with her will continue to grow.

We will soon be a family of 5! This continues to be an amazing journey. Our adoption process has been interesting and we have learned a lot through it. We plan to adopt again in a couple of years, and we will be better prepared and know more of what to expect next time. There really haven't been a lot of surprises so far. It's just an interesting path to walk. We are thankful to have so many friends and family walking right beside us. We can't wait to introduce Baby Boy Goldsmith to each of you! (We do have a name for our little guy, but we aren't sharing it until we know for sure that we are getting to bring him home with us.)

Thanks again for loving our family, encouraging us, and supporting us!  We appreciate it more than we can say!

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

3 Months and Counting Down...

We are waiting excitedly, preparing for, and looking forward to meeting our little boy in late January.  We plan to make a trip in November to meet our baby's birth mother.  Please pray for a good time of getting to know each other and of bonding.  

We found out we were matched with our little boy on September 29th.  Less than a month later, we are only $3,200 away from our fundraising goal of $20,000!  We have two grants coming in that total $11,000, we already had $4,000 from fundraising and our own funds, and over the last few weeks we have had friends and family donate $1,800.  So we are almost there, and we are so grateful for everyone who has gotten us to this point!  Our goal is to have the rest of the funds raised and turned into our adoption agency by December 1st, before the Christmas holidays hit and everything gets busy. 

We have several ways to give if you would like to contribute towards bringing home our little guy:

1. T-shirt fundraiser--Our t-shirts are $20 each, and we receive 50%. The Graphic Cow has been wonderful about helping us with this fundraiser. We are thankful for businesses like theirs who support adoption and assist couples in raising money to adopt. We have a link on this blog that will give instructions on how to purchase a T-shirt. The end date for this fundraiser is November 30th. We will receive the T-shirts the first week of December and get them to everyone who orders one. 
 
2. Lifesong for Orphans--If you would like to donate and receive a tax deduction for your donation, then you can go to the Lifesong for Orphans website or send a check to them with our account information on it (Goldsmith #4762). We get 100% of what is donated through this organization, which is wonderful! Normally an organization will take a percentage for administrative costs. We have a link on this blog that will give instructions on how to donate through Lifesong for Orphans.

3. Give directly to us--If you would like to donate directly to us, you can make a check out to Joey or Jennifer Goldsmith.

We will continue adding puzzle pieces to our adoption puzzle until all of the pieces have names on them.  We don't have too many left.  For every $10 donated, your name goes on a puzzle piece.  When it's completed, we will have it framed between two pieces of glass and hang it in our little guy's room.  It will be a wonderful way for him to see how many people helped to bring him home to us. :) 

If you have any questions about our adoption, please don't hesitate to ask.  We are careful with what we are sharing out of respect for our little boy's birth mother, but we will be glad to talk with you about the process, fundraising, or whatever else you might want to talk about. 

Please pray for us as we move forward these next few months.  We have had a great experience overall through this adoption process, but we have had one difficult situation that continues to sadden us and break our hearts.  We have one family member who opposes our adoption.  We pray that this person's heart will change, but as of today, we see only a hardened heart.  Please pray for God to soften this person's heart and show this person the beauty of adoption and how it portrays our adoption into God's family through Jesus Christ.  Please pray for us to be gracious and loving. 

Thank you again for your support through praying and giving.  It is an exciting time!  We will continue to keep everyone posted over the next few months. 

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Adoption Puzzle

 
 
Above is a photo of what our adoption puzzle looks like as of today.  Thank you to those who have recently donated.  You now have puzzle pieces with your names on them.  It has been fun to see our puzzle take shape over the last 6 months.  We will share a photo of the finished product when it is complete. 
 
 


Thursday, October 2, 2014

Wonderful News!

We have a placement!  We aren't going to give a lot of details out of respect for the birth mom and for privacy reasons, but our baby boy is due on January 23, 2015.  We have a name picked out, but we are not going to share it until the little guy is born and we know for sure that he is going home with us.   

Our adoption will cost a total of $20,000.  We have about $15,000 raised at this point so we still need to raise $5,000 more before our little guy is born.  Our goal is to have the remaining $5,000 raised by December 1st.  We have several ways to give toward our adoption for those who would like to.

1.  T-shirt fundraiser--We are bringing back our T-shirt fundraiser.  They are $20 each, and we receive 50%.  The Graphic Cow has been wonderful about helping us with this fundraiser.  We are thankful for businesses like theirs who support adoption and assist couples in raising money to adopt.  We have a link on this blog that will give instructions on how to purchase a T-shirt.  The end date for this fundraiser is November 30th.  We will receive the T-shirts the first week of December and get them to everyone who orders one. 

2.  Lifesong for Orphans--If you would like to donate and receive a tax deduction for your donation, then you can go to the Lifesong for Orphans website or send a check to them with our account information on it (Goldsmith #4762).  We get 100% of what is donated through this organization, which is wonderful!  Normally, an organization will take a percentage for administrative costs.  We have a link on this blog that will give instructions on how to donate through Lifesong for Orphans.

3.  Give directly to us--If you would like to donate directly to us, you can make a check out to Joey or Jennifer Goldsmith. 

Any donations made will be given puzzle pieces on our adoption puzzle.  Each piece is $10 so if a donation of $100 is made, then your name will be written on 10 pieces, $1000 donation would be 100 pieces, etc...  We want our little boy to know how many people helped get him home to us, and we think this puzzle is the perfect way to do that.  Once it is completed, we will have it framed between two pieces of glass and hang it in his bedroom. 

If you have any questions about our adoption and/or the process, we would be glad to talk with you one on one. 

We have been so amazed at how God has provided financially for our adoption.  We have had family and friends give generously as well as our church and a group of local businessmen.  We are thankful beyond what our words can express.  Thank you for loving us well! 

Thursday, September 11, 2014

New Fundraising Opportunities

We have two new fundraising opportunities starting up.  The first one is thanks to Amanda Hopper.  She has graciously volunteered to do a Jamberry Nails fundraiser for us.  We will receive 15% of the sales.  The fundraiser begins on Monday, September 15th, at 12:00 a.m. and will end the following Monday, September 22nd, at 11:00 p.m.  If you have never tried Jamberry Nails, this is a great time to do it.  This is an online fundraiser and all orders will be mailed to you.  So no matter what state you live in, you can participate in this fundraiser.  If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask.  The website to place orders is  www.amandahopper.jamberrynails.com

The second fundraising opportunity is through Lifesong for Orphans.  We found out this week that we are approved to fundraise through this non-profit organization.  Donations are tax deductible and 100% of what you give will go towards our adoption.  They will not take any administrative fees out of the donations, which is amazing!  If you are interested in giving towards our adoption and getting a tax deduction, as well, please click on the link "Lifesong for Orphans Fundraising" on the home page of this blog to see how.  Basically, you will need to go to www.lifesongfororphans.org/give/donate.  Select "Give to an Adoptive Family."  Complete the online form and fill in "Family Account Number" with #4762 and "Family Name" with Goldsmith.  You can also send a check directly to Lifesong for Orphans.  Make checks payable to "Lifesong for Orphans" and in the memo section, write "Goldsmith #4762" to assure that it goes to the correct account.  Please mail your donation to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.  More information is given about Lifesong for Orphans and donating towards our adoption through them on the link mentioned above.

We are thankful and excited for these fundraising opportunities as we continue this adoption process!  Thank you, thank you, thank you to all who love us and encourage us through it. 

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Where We Are Now

It's been a while since we updated everyone on where we are in the adoption process.  At this point, it is just a waiting game while we continue to try to raise the funds we need.  We have a couple of grants/loans that will give towards our adoption once we accept a placement.  We have had a couple of calls for placements, but due to our family circumstances or the circumstances of the children needing placement, we were not able to accept them.  Those have been difficult decisions, and we hope that we make the right decisions along the way in this process.  Once we accept a placement (and the birth family chooses us), we will then have a limited time to raise the additional funds we will need.  As of now, we have about $3,500 raised and will probably receive an additional $10,000 in the grants/loans mentioned above.  So we are looking at still needing to raise another $5,000 or so.  We still have our puzzle fundraiser going until it is completed.  We don't have any other fundraisers going at this time, but we are looking at options.  If you have any ideas, please let us know. We are open. :)

It's been a busy season with Jen starting a new career and life being busy like it normally is ith Claudia and Gus.  Jen could use prayers for her business to pick up quickly.  Being a loan officer and building your business takes time and patience.  Jen is ready to get going with it so please pray for encouragement and patience during this time.

We would love to have Baby Goldsmith before the end of 2014, but we will have to wait to see what God has in mind.  His timeline doesn't always match up with ours.  We thank you for your continued prayers and support!     

Below is a photo of Claudia and Gus wearing the T-shirts we had made for the fundraiser.  They turned out great!  Once we get a placement, we will probably sell them again in case there were people who did not get a chance to buy one.